I don’t speak much about my sensuality or even my health online. I don’t judge others who do, but I have an old-school mindset about what I tend to feel comfortable sharing in the public sphere. With that said, I think this post could help women, and I’m happy to share my experience.
I went all the way to Portland, Oregon, to see a world-renowned “vagina whisperer” and it was amazing!
Feeling my feelings (revolutionary, I know)
Last year, I began ~feeling my feelings~. By this I mean instead of ruminating on situations or approaching them with my brain, I would go lie down in bed and feel the sensations in my body without a story. Much of this was inspired by the Emotional Surfing group I participated in, but it also felt intuitive to me. One day I felt overwhelmed and just decided to lie down and center my awareness on the actual somatic reaction my body was having.
When I first began this practice, it usually took me about 45 minutes to “clear” everything. After a few rounds of listening to a self-hypnosis tape, I began to have odd reactions. My jaw clenched and tried to release but couldn’t. I’d never noticed any jaw discomfort before this. In the weeks that followed, even when I didn’t meditate, I had an ambient jaw sensation. It took a few more lie-down sessions for the jaw to finally release. Sometimes I used the same self-hypnosis tape and sometimes I just lay in silence focusing my awareness on my jaw. Slowly, the energy began to release. This triggered a chain reaction, and within a day I felt a wave of sensations pulse through my body and out through my spine and feet.
THEN, my womb started talking 👁 👄 👁
A week later, a new sensation revealed herself. This time it was on the left side of my womb area. She(my womb) released a little with the use of an internal pelvic wand and some meditation sessions, but the sensation stuck around for many months. It wasn’t painful. It was more like an itch I couldn’t scratch… just the feeling of energy stuck in my left side. Similar to the jaw clenching, but more annoying. If anyone else finds themselves in this situation, I’d say get medical advice first. But since I was navigating a challenging emotional experience at the time, I’m fairly certain mine was related to that.
I don’t have vaginismus, but it’s something I worked on with a physical therapist a few years ago. Although it’s largely resolved, I believe the emotional stuff underlying my original vaginismus also led to the energy in my womb area.
Initially, I sought help from a standard physical therapist for this, but ultimately decided against that path. I wanted something a bit more emotionally real for my situation.
~the vagina whisperer~
My somatic coach (a Stanford postdoc-educated psychologist) suggested I contact Tami Lynn Kent in Portland, Oregon.
Tami is the best-selling author of Wild Feminine and has given multiple TED Talks on women’s health. Some even call her “the vagina whisperer”. At first, leaving the state for treatment seemed unreasonable. I assured myself I just needed to stretch more or drink less coffee. But as the issue persisted from Fall 2025 through this Spring 2026, I knew my womb was calling for my attention.
Tami usually books out many months in advance, but I got lucky as she was able to see me within a few weeks of contacting her. Since I was coming from out of town, she booked me for two extended sessions. I didn’t know what to expect from the treatment, and I even noticed myself feeling resistance toward receiving it. In an act of avoidance, I waited until the last minute to book my travel to Portland. This meant an 18-hour train ride from San Francisco (and missing the Coleman Hughes moderated debate between Bryan Caplan and Garett Jones! grrr).
The train ended up being a grounding way to travel. I got to take in the beauty of the Pacific Northwest from the observation deck.
The treatment
When I arrived, Tami did an intake with me to discuss my personal history and showed me a model of the pelvic bowl region. She did internal release work (with a glove, consent-informed, etc.) along with some energy work. This included guiding me through visualizations and meditation as she manually released the tension I was holding in my womb. If you are woo-averse, this may not appeal to you. But as someone who is steadily becoming more woo, I loved it!
After the first day, most of the sensation was gone. I could still feel it, faintly, but it was mostly dissolved. The second day was crazy. As we spoke, I felt the energy move up and down my body, almost like it was running around trying to escape. I obviously don’t believe in things like possession but this was the closest I’ve ever come to believing in something like it. The sensation felt so alive, like she was running through my body looking for an escape path.
✨After✨
Following the treatment, the ambient sensation in that area has completely resolved. I’m now noticing some clenching in my throat, which yoga nidra has helped with. But I don’t want to get stuck endlessly digging around in somatic self-improvement land, so I’ll stop reaching for a while unless something major comes up.
Also(TMI warning) for the first time in my life I’ve been able to see the inside of my vulva in a mirror!!!!!! I’m guessing it’s because i’ve been able to relax more but I’d never seen the pink part before...~wow~.
As for creativity, I built a video game on the train back to San Francisco, have been writing and producing more. Oh! And I booked a summer creative solo trip to Latin America which is where I am now.
I think my energy has been more radiant too. In social situations I feel more magnetic and confident than before. This may just be in my mind, but I’d like to think Tami’s work helped.
Tami says women should get this treatment annually regardless of prior trauma or discomfort. I certainly agree. Why don’t we treat our vaginas like all the other parts of our body? They are portals for pleasure, creation and consciousness so I think we should start treating them like it.