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stepfanie tyler's avatar

YES. Couldn't agree more, Amina. This term gets thrown around all over social media and it's such a strange attempt at a dunk. Like, pardon me for trying to be my best self and having some amount of traditional values, rather than a desire to burn the entire system to the ground.

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Wawa's avatar
Nov 11Edited

This article has a powerful message. It's a shame women tear each other down, and using 'pick me' to describe any kind of woman doing anything that doesn't fit in with ideals is a shame. Men aren't worth fighting over either the number of men who let ppl down is astounding TT-TT

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Amina Green's avatar

Thanks so much for your comment! I definitely think its quite the shame that people tear others down so much.

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Wawa's avatar

That's okay, thank you too and yep there's not enough support around

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tallasianchick's avatar

lol @ all the white women who have called themselves "pick-mes"

i never liked it for myself because i'm not; if anything, don't pick me!

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Amina Green's avatar

lol you’re something else

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The Long Game's avatar

"I don’t remember my father cooking or cleaning at all. That duty was left to my stepmother. This wasn’t considered unusual or unfair."

Oh well if it wasn't considered unfair then it must not have been!

A pickme throws other women under the bus for male attention/approval. No one said it was because some women cook and clean more than their male partner. And if that woman works a job, whether cashier or influencer/model, then that woman HAS A JOB and usually works about as much as the man does, and therefore he can COOK AND CLEAN 50% of the time.

The math can math. Let's do it right.

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Serein Dovesin's avatar

Wow, this really made me think! 😮 I never knew the origins of the 'pick-me' term and how much it’s been misused. Thanks for breaking it down so clearly—really eye-opening.

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Jeff Fong's avatar

Completely unsolicited content idea: something documenting the gradual migration of all the terms like pick-me from black american vernacular and into the terminally online white liberal lexicon. I think this is an under-appreciated (by terminally online white liberal folk) phenomenon.

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